Creating new patterns of life involves tracking motivations and committing to change. It is important to identify what you want to work on and take action.
Advisor: Jordi Duque
International Mindfulness Consultant, Life Coach and Business Consultant
Sometimes you are surprised to see how much time you have spent absorbed in your screen, in a job that does not satisfy you, or ruminating about situations that have already passed. Then you start to feel like you have wasted time. So how can you turn harmful, toxic, or foolish habits into healthy patterns that will bring out your full potential? For Jordi Duque, consultant in personal transformation issues, the pandemic showed us that we are fragile and vulnerable. The key question is: What can we learn from it? The answer creates a starting point for those who want to rethink their life or change their habits.
Define the habit you want to change
1.The most important thing is that you identify it clearly. In order to define it fully, Jordi Duque says that it is worth asking the question: Who do I want to be in life? The ideal answer includes the five domains in which a person develops: physical, emotional, mental, social, and spiritual. You can define three goals for each domain (see chart). If you are in the physical domain, you may find that you need to get up earlier to start implementing the change you want by starting the day with exercise, meditation, or eating.
I would like to manage my emotions and not get carried away by them.
I want to work on being less reactive to what I feel.
I would love to be more caring and empathetic in my social relationships.
I will work to be a more relaxed person and live with less stress.
I will observe my thoughts and understand that they do not constitute my being.
I would like to have more intellectual interests and satisfy my desire to learn.
I will be able to effectively manage my diet.
I want to sleep soundly and rest in order to start a new day.
I will exercise to keep myself in good mental and physical shape.
I will resort to silence as a way of finding peace.
I will have a personal space for this.
I will study a philosophy or line of thought to see that superior being reflected in all things.
I would like to increase my bonds of friendship and my social ties.
I will work to be more proactive with others.
I want to truly listen to others more.
Focus on achievement and motivation
2. “In the support I give to athletes, businessmen, and those who, for example, are writing a book after suffering from cancer, the mere act of transferring the thought, emotion, or molecular memory to the achievement of the goal motivates them to take action,” explains Jordi Duque. From his perspective, it is important to answer the questions: “What motivates me? What do I get out of living the way I want and doing what I want? If I think about the reward, I will have the motivation to achieve it. If my motivation disappears, then I can’t take action,” he concludes.
Be specific with your actions
3. Specify what will help you achieve your goals. For example, Jordi Duque states that if you want to work on the social domain or level, then you could consider asking powerful questions and learning to be silent when people are talking. Or you could frequently call or send a voice message to a friend you want to connect with. “With small actions every day, I change habits,” he says. Writing them down will help you be fully aware of them and implement them in your daily life.
CONQUER YOUR SUBCONSCIOUS
Most people live without understanding that there are patterns ingrained in this dimension of the subconscious. “98% of what we think are illusions, fantasies, and unrealities, and only 2% could be reality. We have to focus on this two percent because human beings live in movies, on auto pilot,” states Jordi Duque. He adds that it is important to work on how we face situations or react, and to consider being an observer of the situations instead of identifying with them. “I am not a position or material goods. I occupy a position, and I have access to material goods; to the extent that we make that disidentification, we can live more freely,” says Duque.