Forgive yourself in the past to live better in the present Forgive yourself in the past to live better in the present

Forgive yourself in the past to live better in the present

WITH YOUR MIND 1 February, 2018 Isabel Vallejo


Hoʻoponopono is about loving, understanding, forgiving, and thanking. It is based on healing one’s past to live a better life each day.

Advisor Isabel Flórez Peláez, facilitator of the technique

A Hawaiian healing technique based on resolving conflicts through a process of internal forgiveness and reconciliation, the principles of hoʻoponopono are to live in the here and now and take responsibility for everything that happens to us, including thoughts, words, actions and faults.

About fifty years ago, the healer Morrnah Nalamaku Simeona brought the teachings of this practice to the West. According to the theory of Nalamaku, “We are the sum total of our experiences, which is to say that we are burdened by our pasts. When we experience stress or fear in our lives, if we would look carefully, we would find that the cause is actually a memory. The subconscious associates an action or person in the present with something that happened in the past.”

Little by little this theory has been introduced to modern times, providing people with life tools through spiritual strengthening.

The relationship wirh yourself

It’s a technique to heal myself, forgive myself through love and reconciliation, and achieve peace, making things flow in a more peaceful way,” states Isabel Flórez, facilitator of the hoʻoponopono technique, which in the Hawaiian language means “to correct an error.”

How does it work? It starts by acknowledging that each person has a past that is sometimes painful, then moves on to identify any hurtful events. It continues by beginning to free oneself of these events and let them go without resentment. This exercise is one of intention and can also be used to manage feelings of anxiety surrounding the future as well as situations that are a part of daily family and work life. Each person adapts the practice to meet the objective they have for it.

I love you. I’m sorry. Please forgive me. Thank you.” These are the four key words that make this technique successful. Repeating them frequently in your mind during difficult times will help bring greater awareness to what you are experiencing and what you are trying to let go of, leaving behind worries, stress, anxiety and any feeling that takes away from your peace of mind.

This mantra contains high-vibration words, which calm the mind and quiets the ego. They are meaningful words that you say to yourself and allow you to stay in the present, helping to draw in new things to your life,” adds Isabel.

If someone wants to change an aspect of their daily life they consider to be negative, the person must understand what is actually affecting them to take the plunge necessary to achieve the transformation they seek.

This method of healing

seeks to eliminate unconscious memories and negative emotions about a problem that a person is experiencing, so that other things can flow.

According to this philosophy, everything that happens in life is a thought or a memory which appear before us to give us the opportunity to release, eliminate and erase them.

High-vibration words

According to the technique, repeating this mantra leads to healing and frees us of our worries, cleaning toxic information out of our conscience.

By saying:

  • I love you,” this allows our energy to flow.
  • I’m sorry,” we acknowledge that something entered our mind and body that requires self-forgiveness.
  • Please forgive me,” we are asking God, the universe or the being we believe in to help us forgive ourselves.
  • Thank you,” we express gratitude and appreciation for what we experience in life.

Spiritual connection

Hoʻoponopono and neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) share a similar connection. Both help people reprogram the way they see their lives, their thoughts and their perspectives through messages that becomes subliminal and take over the subconscious. The theory of NLP, however, does not include the concept of spirituality that hoʻoponopono does, which is more of a life philosophy and about connection with the self.

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