According to Daniel Goleman, a psychology professor at the University of Harvard and author of the book, Emotional Intelligence, this concept can be defined as, “The ability to acknowledge, accept and channel one’s emotions towards behaviors that lead to achieving desired objectives and sharing them with others.”
According to Goleman, emotional intelligence (EI) can be divided into four elements: the self-awareness and self-regulation of emotions (the intrapersonal sphere), and empathy and social skills (the interpersonal sphere). Some authors include the ability to be self-motivated and adapt to change to this last one.
The benefits of managing your emotions well are not just related to social relationships and self-esteem, they can include other areas of life such as: greater satisfaction and success both at a personal and professional level, less dependence on addiction, a better immune system, better general health, less anxiety and stress, more satisfied marriages and more charisma in social and professional circles.
Some of the practices of people with high emotional intelligence include:
- They acknowledge their feelings and those of others.
- They accurately express their emotions and thoughts.
- There are strong and are not easily offended.
- They acknowledge when they are wrong and rectify themselves.
- They do not seek perfection.
- They take care of themselves and understand the importance of health.
- They focus on what is positive, even in the face of adversity.
- They are surrounded by people who are happy and have good energy.
- They defend their assertiveness and know how to say no.
- They appreciate and value what they already have.