Shake off your rage to live in calm Shake off your rage to live in calm

Human relations imply conflict of all sorts and anger is a sentiment innate in people, what becomes problematic is when it expresses disproportionately.

Advisor Lucio González Ortega
MD, Psychiatrist, master in Psychoanalysis, practitioner at Coomeva Private Healthcare


Rage is an emotion that exists in the human being, alongside love, envy and jealousy and it is associated with aggression. Psychiatrist Lucio González explains that there are two strong drives in individuals: the affective one and the aggressive one both of which strive for satisfaction. The first one seeks refuge in affection and pleasure along the different stages of life. In turn, aggression seeks to detonate in different ways: by attacking the other person, or oneself; physically or through words: transforming it into thought that dilutes the violent action; or keeping it stored in the body and somatizing eventually leading to disease in the body.

Rage, as such, is about an augmented anger that, more often than not, originates from everyday frustrations: when a child does not understand why he cannot paint on the walls or cannot eat sweets or in the case of an adolescent that argues with his parents because they will not allow him to go to a party. Also, in arguments at work or with one’s partner. All of this causes rage and impotence, anger and tension.

Dr. González quotes that “the opposite of war is not peace but rather political dialogue.” That is the way with aggression; it is part of the human being and is not necessarily bad; on the contrary, one of its instinctual objectives is to establish hierarchies, territoriality and authority: “Controlled aggression establishes order,” the Psychiatrist adds. Diplomacy appears as a way to mediate and liberate aggression little by little, it is a construction to diminish conflict and build laws or regulations.


5 actions to release anger in a healthy way


It is about deferring this aggressive emotion, not about eliminating it. Mediation with therapists and playful activities help orient it in a positive way and keep the person from unleashing it against someone else or against his own body.


  1. Relaxing. Breathing, walking, thinking. The typical method of counting to 10 is not logical, 
“the thought process delays action, it is better to say: I will answer later on,” emphasizes Psychiatrist Lucio González.
  2. Amusing yourself. Among the best strategies are those of enjoying any sport, or activities such as painting, writing, reading, playing an instrument or learning a language, among others.
  3. Seek help. One must determine when rage is a problem for the individual and for his ambiance: this requires attention. In general, it is the parents or the person himself who seeks help.
  4. Dialogue. When talking about the subject with a specialist, one achieves cathartic moments and one reaches solutions that take into account the context of each individual. “People need to be heard, that brings about alleviation; sometimes people are calm but explode out of nowhere because they have repressed certain issues,” says the specialist.
  5. Complements. Finally, if these other methods do not work, medical science has created chemicals that modulate the brain. They are used to help people in their process of self-control, by increasing their levels of serotonin, without sedating or over-stimulating the person.


Rage in the body

When a person gets angry, this stimulus goes to the cortex and the amygdala, both located in the brain. The latter sends signals to the organism through adrenalin and noradrenalin hormones that indicate to fight or to flee. Thus the heartbeat and breathing increase their rhythm, the skin becomes humid and the mouth dry. Through serotonin there is an attempt to calm the situation down and control the defense mechanisms. When anger is kept inside and not expressed the organism manifests it as a self-attack, with pain, pathological stress, fibromyalgia and depression.

Rage is considered a disease when it is a disorder in controlling impulses; it is a dysfunction of the neurons that produces exaggerated reactions in people. Those who have received tools during their upbringing for the solution of problems as well as good examples of dialogue are less aggressive.

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